Yesterday was a rough day, but it wasn't all terrible. I'm fully convinced there is too much drama given to Youngest, just one child! I'm certain that if he were a girl, he would be going through PMS.
I'm sure you don't want to know the whole story and detail, but it's going to be a long 7 years for us! We would appreciate your prayers for this child. He told me yesterday, that I didn't love him and he wasn't sure why he was here. I told him he was right, we fought to keep him alive when he was born, spent 6 years in therapy (OT,PT, speech)for him not me, and countless nights up because we didn't love him... grrr! Yes, I know, I popped off the first thing that came to my mind. I tried to be using an even, controlled tone, but my mind was racing wild with things it wanted to say.
Job 33:2 I am about to open my mouth; my words are on the tip of my tongue.
Job 27:4 my lips will not speak wickedness, and my tongue will utter no deceit.
Psalm 52:4 You love every harmful word, O you deceitful tongue!
As a Mom, I want to use words and be encouraging with my kids, to make the punishment fit the "crime," but sometimes I struggle with him. If I had a dozen kids (today, I'm thankful I don't), I know they would each be different. I don't want to squelch his spirit or change who God made him to be. He is energetic, vocal, imaginative, passionate, loving, sensative. He is Youngest and I know God allowed him live because He has a mighty purpose for his life. Sometimes getting from point A to the next is hard.
What I did: I put on some old Psalty music yesterday and had him start cleaning - bathroom, and vacuuming, while I worked on dinner. You would have thought the world caved in! I just left him to his dramatics. If I'd had my old Donut Man tapes, I would have used them. He's lost privileges: TV, computer, playing on anyone's phone...
This morning he got up and asked what he could do to clean - he's dusted the living room, pictures, hallway, and is now cleaning windows. Oh, we have theatrics - he's making wild noises, singing Newsboys songs at the top of his lungs, and using a plastic golf putter as a guitar. I guess it doesn't matter how quickly he does it - though he is surprisingly quick once he puts his mind to it. He even came in, asking me what else he needed to do.
Mom: "You can clean the bathroom mirror"
Youngest: "Oh well, I can do all things without complaining cause that's what the Bible says to do."
Philippians 2:14Do everything without complaining or arguing
Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Him who strengthens me.

3 comments:
Ah, Lynnet, I am sorry for your rough day. I have been in that same spot before, so I pray for you with experience :-), My dramatic one turns 29 next week and is heading to England as a missionary. She brings me great joy. Hang in there . . .
Oh my, I came across your post this morning in my reader, after a rough night with my little guy about the same age as yours I believe. I got goosebumps reading your post when I found the similarities. Although he was not born premature, he was very sick with reflux as a baby, on many meds, and also had Speech and OT therapy for a few years. We have been struggling with similar issues with behavior, and it is so tiresome and frustrating, and saddening. He is nothing like my 2 other children, and somedays it truly worries me. It's nice to know I'm not alone, although, I'm sorry you've had a rough time too. But reading your post helped me see that God is with me, just like he is with you on days like this. Thanks. :)
Those days are still ahead of me but teaching 5th grade gave me a sneak peak.
Glad you are getting some cleaning help!
All the heirlooms you have sound so cool!
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