Friday, July 16, 2010

Rough Day with Youngest

Yesterday was a rough day, but it wasn't all terrible. I'm fully convinced there is too much drama given to Youngest, just one child! I'm certain that if he were a girl, he would be going through PMS.
I'm sure you don't want to know the whole story and detail, but it's going to be a long 7 years for us! We would appreciate your prayers for this child. He told me yesterday, that I didn't love him and he wasn't sure why he was here. I told him he was right, we fought to keep him alive when he was born, spent 6 years in therapy (OT,PT, speech)for him not me, and countless nights up because we didn't love him... grrr!   Yes, I know, I popped off the first thing that came to my mind.  I tried to be using an even, controlled tone, but my mind was racing wild with things it wanted to say. 
Job 33:2    I am about to open my mouth; my words are on the tip of my tongue.
Job 27:4     my lips will not speak wickedness, and my tongue will utter no deceit.
Psalm 52:4   You love every harmful word, O you deceitful tongue!
 As a Mom, I want to use words and be encouraging with my kids, to make the punishment fit the "crime," but sometimes I struggle with him.  If I had a dozen kids (today, I'm thankful I don't), I know they would each be different. I don't want to squelch his spirit or change who God made him to be.  He is energetic, vocal, imaginative, passionate, loving, sensative.  He is Youngest and I know God allowed  him live because He has a mighty purpose for his life.  Sometimes getting from point A to the next is hard.
 What I did: I put on some old Psalty music yesterday and had him start cleaning - bathroom, and vacuuming, while I worked on dinner. You would have thought the world caved in! I just left him to his dramatics.  If I'd had my old Donut Man tapes, I would have used them. He's lost privileges: TV, computer, playing on anyone's phone...
This morning he got up and asked what he could do to clean - he's dusted the living room, pictures, hallway, and is now cleaning windows. Oh, we have theatrics - he's making wild noises, singing Newsboys songs at the top of his lungs, and using a plastic golf putter as a guitar.  I guess it doesn't matter how quickly he does it - though he is surprisingly quick once he puts his mind to it. He even came in, asking me what else he needed to do.
Mom: "You can clean the bathroom mirror"

Youngest: "Oh well, I can do all things without complaining cause that's what the Bible says to do."

Philippians 2:14Do everything without complaining or arguing

Philippians 4:13   I can do all things through Him who strengthens me.

  I shake my head in wonder... Have you had a rough day?  Is God working on your through a situation?  Now, if you'll excuse me, I have to supervise the dusting of the china cabinet and make some pizza dough for dinner tonight, and while I'm at it, I'm going to look for my super woman cape cause I'm going to need it!
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Ah, Lynnet, I am sorry for your rough day. I have been in that same spot before, so I pray for you with experience :-), My dramatic one turns 29 next week and is heading to England as a missionary. She brings me great joy. Hang in there . . .

Jodi said...

Oh my, I came across your post this morning in my reader, after a rough night with my little guy about the same age as yours I believe. I got goosebumps reading your post when I found the similarities. Although he was not born premature, he was very sick with reflux as a baby, on many meds, and also had Speech and OT therapy for a few years. We have been struggling with similar issues with behavior, and it is so tiresome and frustrating, and saddening. He is nothing like my 2 other children, and somedays it truly worries me. It's nice to know I'm not alone, although, I'm sorry you've had a rough time too. But reading your post helped me see that God is with me, just like he is with you on days like this. Thanks. :)

Janna said...

Those days are still ahead of me but teaching 5th grade gave me a sneak peak.

Glad you are getting some cleaning help!

All the heirlooms you have sound so cool!