A few weeks ago, I found myself riding back from a fun time with my dear friend Ester, and she was telling me about a book she had been reading and how it was affecting her marriage. I was intrigued and wanted to know more.
Both of us celebrated 20 years with our spouses, and sometimes, in the "thrill" of daily life, things become complacent, okay, maybe content. But I need to rethink things! I mean contentment can be a good thing, but as for my marriage, I really want more.
Content: Desiring no more than what one has
I desperately struggle reading books that are not fiction. Sometimes I have to read a paragraph twice just to get a really good point, so to purposely pick up a book that is going to take super brain powers is a stretch for me. What book could possibly tempt and entice me? Love & Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs.
I just started reading it yesterday, so I'm just getting started, but I'm determined to finish to the last page. In Part 1, the chapters focus on The Crazy Cycle: Without love, she reacts, Without respect, he Reacts. Okay, so what this means is:
Without love from him, she reacts without respect; without respect from her, he reacts without love. Around and around it goes...So for now I'm borrowing Ester's copy while they are on vacation until I can get my own copy because I want to be able to write in my book and take notes - so I can really remember and journal. I do love has this book is infused with Scripture, is a Focus on the Family book and is written in terms that I can understand. While Ester said that this has not been easy, she can see the positive already happening because she is taking steps toward respect, and in return, she is harvesting love.
I remember a last year when I did the 1 Corth 7:5 Challenge, what an impact it made on our lives. My poor Honey didn't know I was taking part in this, but he sure noticed! I'm hoping that Honey will notice a change in my attitude toward him and that he will feel more respected.
So how are you doing in this area? Want to join me in this journey? Have you already read this book and would like to leave me a note about what you discovered?